Why Get Back With an Ex?
I find that people generally have two responses to my ebook, "How to Get Back Your Ex."
People either think it's great or they think it's a bad idea.
The people who think it's great are the one's who want to get back to their ex. They finally have an effective course of action to use when navigating the tricky and complicated dynamics of a post breakup relationship. The one's who think it's a bad idea are the ones who can't imagine why anyone would want to get back with their ex.
I'd like to address a couple of the arguments of those who think it's a bad idea.
First, to say that it's a bad idea to get back with an ex is assuming that there is automatically no value in a relationship simply because of a breakup. This is intuitively false. Two people might be great for each other but a relationship problem causes a breakup. If the problem can be solved then the relationship is fine and there is no inherent reason not to pursue it. Why throw away a great relationship instead of working on it and fixing it? To put it another way, a break up does not necessarily equal incompatibility, a lost cause, or something bad about two people being together.
Critics often assume that my approach somehow involves stalking an ex or something equally silly. This is defnitely not the case as anyone who has actually read the ebook knows. If anything, I preach the exact opposite. Besides, if the plan didn't work and customers were getting restraining orders right and left, I wouldn't be able to generate enough money to keep the website afloat for 5 years. This is just a silly assumption caused by ignorance.
I suppose my posting this defense is motivated by a pretty personal event in my life. I recently became engaged to a wonderful woman I dated for 5 years. During that the time we were dating we broke up a couple of times. If we hadn't been able to get back together I wouldn't have her in my life now or in the future. Every moment that I spend with her is confirmation to me that it is a worthwhile cause to help people get back together after a breakup.
People either think it's great or they think it's a bad idea.
The people who think it's great are the one's who want to get back to their ex. They finally have an effective course of action to use when navigating the tricky and complicated dynamics of a post breakup relationship. The one's who think it's a bad idea are the ones who can't imagine why anyone would want to get back with their ex.
I'd like to address a couple of the arguments of those who think it's a bad idea.
First, to say that it's a bad idea to get back with an ex is assuming that there is automatically no value in a relationship simply because of a breakup. This is intuitively false. Two people might be great for each other but a relationship problem causes a breakup. If the problem can be solved then the relationship is fine and there is no inherent reason not to pursue it. Why throw away a great relationship instead of working on it and fixing it? To put it another way, a break up does not necessarily equal incompatibility, a lost cause, or something bad about two people being together.
Critics often assume that my approach somehow involves stalking an ex or something equally silly. This is defnitely not the case as anyone who has actually read the ebook knows. If anything, I preach the exact opposite. Besides, if the plan didn't work and customers were getting restraining orders right and left, I wouldn't be able to generate enough money to keep the website afloat for 5 years. This is just a silly assumption caused by ignorance.
I suppose my posting this defense is motivated by a pretty personal event in my life. I recently became engaged to a wonderful woman I dated for 5 years. During that the time we were dating we broke up a couple of times. If we hadn't been able to get back together I wouldn't have her in my life now or in the future. Every moment that I spend with her is confirmation to me that it is a worthwhile cause to help people get back together after a breakup.
posted by Brian at 1:18 AM
1 Comments:
I tried to persuade get back to me during the first 72 hours of the breakup. He refused to agree, said he had moved on and asked me to let go. Since that day, I have not contacted him. I did bump into him, but I looked very aloof when I saw him. How high are my chances of getting him back again?
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